Insecurities. We all have them. They come in different shapes and sizes. Do you ever feel like you have no talents? Maybe you feel like you don’t have a purpose. Like everyone else knows what they are doing in life and exactly what they want, and you’re completely in the dark about knowing who you are and what you want? Yeah. Me too. I’ve been there. You have all of these big dreams. Yet, you don’t know how to pursue them and you don’t believe in yourself enough to start reaching for the stars. Well, if any of that sounded exactly like how you feel, then this post is definitely for you. I’m going to give you tips on how to overcome your own insecurities and start believing in yourself so that you can go live the life you have always wanted but didn’t think you could have.
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In order for me to educate you on overcoming your own insecurities I need to first tell you about some of mine and how I continue to move forward and overcome them. They say when you are a young child, you learn everything from your parental figures. Everything your parents do affects you as a child. Don’t get me wrong. I had an AMAZING childhood and I am so lucky. I grew up in a loving family and my parents taught me amazing things. However, everyone is human. My family had a lot of their own self-doubt. That self-doubt was passed onto me. My whole life I have been on a journey to overcome my insecurities and gain confidence in myself. I have started a million projects because I have so many ideas and I have moments where I believe I can do anything. I even went to two different colleges with two different majors because everything I started… I ended up quitting. I didn’t believe in myself. I had an idea of who I wanted to be. However, I didn’t believe I could be that person.
Now I am a twenty-five year old fashion graduate living in a town where there is not a huge demand for my fashion degree. You know what? That’s okay. It’s okay because everyday I am working on myself and my own insecurities so that I can create a life I love. You can create a life that you love as well once you push passed your insecurities.
So, how do you do this? First, you have to realize WHY you’re insecure. What are you insecure about? I want you to grab a super cute notebook (so that you’ll want to refer back to it) and write down in full detail every single last thing you are insecure about. This can be physical, mental, or spiritual. For example, maybe you are insecure about your thighs. Maybe you’re insecure about how you interact with other people? Whatever it is, write it down.
Okay, now that you are fully aware of your WHY, it’s time to write down your plans on how you can become secure about those things. This part is the challenge so I am going to give you an example from my own life. If you don’t want to listen to my boring sap story, you can skip the next paragraph.
Finances: I have recently been so insecure about my finances. In my mind, I am a twenty-five year old college graduate who is still BROKE! Not to mention, I am super in debt from school. I started to doubt myself and tell myself that I will never pay off my debt and I will never have financial freedom. All of my friends are becoming super successful and making all of this money and I’m over here drowning in debt living pay check to pay check. I was so down. I was defeated. That’s when it hit me. Is worrying about it and feeling defeated going to change the amount of debt I am in? No. I decided to let go. Is it going to be hard struggling financially? Of course, but life is worth so much more than dollar bills yo! Your life was made to LIVE. So, the first step to overcoming your insecurities is letting them go. Read my four tips below on how to start overcoming your insecurities.
Say your favorite mantra out loud
I’ve recently been learning about mantras and how they can help you overcome the struggles in your mind. You can see a killer mantra list here. One mantra that has truly helped me overcome my insecurities is this one.
“I deserve to be happy and feel good every day about all areas in my life.”
We only get one life. Make it count. You deserve happiness in all areas of your life. You can create happiness for yourself.
Create a gratitude list
I recently started writing gratitude lists. Normally, I will start one list per week and add to it as the week goes on and I come up with more amazing things in my life that I am grateful for. Creating a gratitude list helps you realize the great things you do have in your life. The less you dwell on the negative and the more you celebrate the positive the more confident and happy you will be.
This is one of my favorite things to do. I started vision boards when I was going through college. A vision board will help you get really clear on what you are working towards. You can create yours by cutting out photos in a magazine and pasting them to a board. OR you can create one by grabbing google images and uploading them to Canva. You will want to grab photos of the things you aspire to be or things you want to someday have. These can be materialistic things or meaningful things. You can see mine below. 🙂 The fun part about this is that you can dream away! Nothing is too big. Place that photo of a mansion on your vision board or a fun vacation you want to someday take. Visualize what you want in your life. This will allow you to gain confidence by sharing your dreams with yourself. You can see mine as an example below.
Now it’s time to take action. Great confidence doesn’t come over night. It is a work in progress. It’s time to commit to being more confident and overcoming your insecurities. Remember, you are amazing. You have amazing things to offer. You have an amazing life to live. So, get out there and start living! Every time I start doubting myself I think back to who I used to be and how insecurities do nothing but harm me. I remind myself of the amazing things I have to offer and I say my mantras out loud.
This will take time. You are so worth feeling confident and secure in your own body and mind. So, if you’re struggling with confidence and you’re not sure where to begin, shoot me a message. I would love to help you find your WHY and give you a push on taking action.